How to Successfully Find a Spouse!
First, let me give a brief history of myself.
In 1974, I married Emily LaVonne Watts. We remained husband and wife until
her body would no longer function and she left it.
We had a very successful marriage. I helped her raise our five children who
are all awesome and happy in life! No criminals, no druggies, etc, just very
successful ethical children!
There were a couple successful actions in that marriage:
First, make a commitment. You must be willing to make it go right despite hell
and high water (difficulties)! If you're not, then why start?
Next, is stay in good communication. A marriage is a created relationship. It
takes a lot of good honest communication to make it work. It's not difficult but
no one can say it is easy either. But I can guarantee that if you cease
communicating, cease being honest, the marriage will not be happy. Marriage
should be a happy relationship!
Once LaVonne left her body, after 33 years together, I found myself without a
partner, best friend, lover and just an incredible source of love and company.
How Long to Wait, How Long to Mourn?
After a while, I decided I was healthy and very active and I should handle
being without a wife.
I started looking but all my friends were married with children, just like I was.
Now I am not telling you to do what I did, but I considered, how do I get in
communication with a lot of potential ladies? The bars just didn't seem to be
the answer and I really didn't have a lot of other sources.
So I went to the Affinity Exchange where there are many ladies of my religion.
I am an active Scientologist and have been for 38 years.
I wrote up a descriptive picture, a list of qualities of an ideal spouse for myself,
a list of wanted and not wanted qualities. (I later found out that Mary had
made the same type list.)
Then I set out to find that Ideal Lady.
I sent out hundreds of communications. I talked to dozens of ladies.
I was looking for someone with courage. That meant they must be willing to
communicate and not be so cautious that they appeared to be afraid or hiding.
I wanted to someone who was a Scientologist or at least very willing to find
out about Scientology.
I wanted someone who would not be a financial burden, not be ill, not have
huge family problems.
There were other factors as I was a bit picky!
It didn't take long to find this lady.
When I met Mary.
I used all my communication skills to establish and maintain a very strong
communication between us. Strong enough that we developed a lot of affinity,
liking, and basically love for each other.
I was very determined to make this go right as I knew I could and Mary was
more Ideal than I had any right to expect. I doubt that if I had searched for
another 10 years that I could have done as well. She is just perfect for me!
I found that we had a lot of agreement and reality.
I didn't delay but asked her to marry me the first week. Why not?
It took a little more communication but she agreed and we decided to be
husband and wife about 6/4/07.
On 9/7/2007, we were officially married!
This has been a most successful action on my part. See wedding picture!
Mary and I are happy and there is no reason this will not continue indefinitely!
We have not had a cross word pass between us since we met! Still true,
12/3/08, 2/7/09, 2/12/10!
We were both studying the Basic Books and Lectures of our religion,
Scientology! (6/19/10 I've completed the basics materials. I am currently
restudying some of the basics and also will studying more advanced
This helps us keep our reality very similar and keeps us up tone and happy! I
can not recommend highly enough the action of studying Scientology and
doing it together with your spouse is even better!
This is true.
©2008-2014 Carl Watts www.carlwattsartist.com 090514
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Check out my series of articles on "How to Be a Parent!" I have very good statistics
on raising healthy happy and productive children. I am proud to say there are no
criminals or druggies in my family. I am in good communication with all my children
and their spouses!