I've read a few things lately and decided I should write my own viewpoint on
how to make those around you better in life, perhaps a bit more friendly.
You know how good a nice smile can make you feel, a few words of praise!
You also know how unpleasant it is to be around two people arguing! It's
unpleasant even when you aren't part of it and just happen to walk into the
"The Highest Purpose in this Universe is the Creation of
Most of us want to create good effects and do so routinely. Remembering
someone's birthday or "saying thank you" does this well.
But how many times do we let our temper flare towards another driver? Or
perhaps someone slowing the checkout line? Or someone being loud in the
theater or restaurant? The list can go on forever of ways others upset us!
Here's where I want to make my point.
I am sure you have at times noticed when someone had their attention on you.
Others definitely can feel your attention the same way.
So when we go into a rage, it makes others feel bad!
I've had several other drivers just pull over to the side of the road to let me
pass. I know this was the case as they pulled back out immediately when it
was safe to do so. My upset scared them out of the way.
Last year, I was driving down the street in Studio City, CA, beside my son. He
was in his truck and I was in my car. I noticed a slow moving vehicle in front of
my son’s truck.
I told my passenger, that my son was getting upset at the slow moving driver
in front of him, that I could feel it.
Within seconds, the slow moving driver pulled to the curb. I told my
passenger, "Watch that car, my son just made them get out of the way." He
watched and saw that after my son and one other vehicle passed, the slow
moving driver promptly pulled back into traffic.
This is not the way I want to create effects on others.
So I have developed a couple rules I try to causatively do all the time.
First, I cheerfully greet everyone I am close enough to greet. I haven't worked
up to greeting everyone in a line but there's no reason not to do this!
Second, rather than get upset, I send positive thoughts towards other drivers,
people across the room and to every person in the room.
When another driver is going to slow, I just send the thought to them to speed
up. Sometimes they do. Sometimes they don't but at least I'm not dropping to
anger or rage.
It actually makes me feel more at cause to be positive and I am sure it is
creating, to some degree, good effects on others.
You do this too!
Now you may not feel you do this or can, but I guarantee you can!
I challenge you to do this once. Just greet someone on the sidewalk with a
cheerful tone! Wish people good morning or a happy New Year or what ever
Tell people on your e-mails to have a Great Day! And you mean it when you
say it or write it or even just think it.
I'd be pleased to hear back from you on how this goes.
I've adopted the phrase " #EverythinWill_B_OK!" I use it routinely. I believe
that to be true.
Will there be ups and downs in life? I guarantee there will be.
Related article: What Do You Really Want?
This was written Jan 08. As I read it today, it is more true than ever. I've let
parts drop out but I am going to put them back in. Have a great day! 1/27/2010.
Reading this again, 4/9/12, 7/29/12 and 11/08/14, I find most of this is in.
Though I know I can do better! How about you?
Let me know if there's a subject you need to know more about, a question
you'd like expanded on or anything you'd like to see me write an article about.
Happy to do so as I'm always looking for new ideas. Contact me via this site
Listen and Guide, Someone to.
*Quoting L. Ron Hubbard from the book Scientology: The Fundamentals of
Thought, "Axiom 10."
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