I was recently divorced and not really that excited about dating again. I was nervous, out of practice, and downright scared! I Thought, "Okay, I need to just do this." At first, I was skeptical about using an online dating service. I thought only a loser would use such a service, but several friends assured me it was the right thing to do. I signed up for several and checked them out. I definitely liked many features of Affinity Exchange, determined it was the best site, and used it regularly. I especially appreciated Marcia's hat write up on how to communicate and meet with someone for the first time, and how to take it from there. Somehow I kept hooking up with guys quite a distance away. I was in a circumstance where I could not travel, so that didn't work out too well. Marcia encouraged me to try harder to meet local people. But I was at a point where I was ready to give up on dating. I was really busy and doing well in life, so I decided to put finding a relationship on hold for a while. I told Marcia about my decision and she acknowledged me appropriately and encouraged me to "go shopping" on the site from time to time--just for kicks. Well, I "went shopping" later that night and saw a picture of a guy who looked like a nice person. I quickly read the profile, and then printed it off to look it over further in the future. This man looked very interesting to me, but since I was "just shopping" and not really looking, I decided to think about it before communicating to him. Turns out he noticed that I had looked at his profile and sent me an email. Over the next three days we emailed back and forth several times and decided to meet for coffee. It was the recommended "safe meeting" in a public place for a short period of time. What the heck--at least it would get the flow going! :) I met Carl at Starbucks on the way to work one day. He was a very nice guy and I really liked talking to him. We decided to meet a couple of days later. We went to dinner and talked for quite some time. I really liked him but I was going to be smart--I sure as heck wasn't going to jump into anything! But I really liked him.... During dinner he told me up front that he was dating lots of different people, and I told him I thought that was a really good idea. I told him he should date everyone he wanted to until he found just the right person for him. I told him I thought it was really important to be with someone you really want to be with. He agreed. When the evening ended, he kissed me good night and told he'd like to go out again sometime soon and that he'd call me. Okay... He called me the next day and told me he had cancelled a coffee date with one lady and a dinner date with another. I thought, "Okay, here it comes--he's going to cancel going out with me." But then he told me he was canceling these other dates because he had decided he wanted to date me exclusively. He had suspended his profiles on the dating sites he was using. That was exciting, but I was gonna be the cool one. I told him I was very flattered but I wasn't going to make any decisions quite so fast. He put no pressure on me at all and said he understood and could we go out again that night? To make a long story short, we got together for a while every night that week, and we texted and called and emailed each other all day and night when we weren't together. By the end of the week we decided to get married. (He says it was only three days.) We got married on September 7th, and we are living happily ever after! Our future is so bright and we are sooooo happy. Our dynamics are completely aligned and we have a great family. I had always wanted a big family but never had one of my own. Carl has five children and seven grandchildren, and now we have added an eighth grandchild! (6/19/10 it's up to 11 currently) It is just awesome. I had kind of lost hope on finding a happy relationship, but I have definitely met the man of my dreams. It is exactly as I always thought it should be. Thank you Marcia for helping me meet my lifelong partner. We are both very happy!
After my wife passed away, I realized very quickly that I didn't like not having a wife, so I started to put out communication lines to anyone and everyone I knew that was single. I went onto an on line dating service connected to my webmail service and very quickly located a lady who I dated a few times--but I knew she wasn't the correct person for me. One of my daughters asked me if I was looking in the right place to find the right woman for me. I realized I wasn't and immediately signed up for The Affinity Exchange. I put out many communications, looked at, and emailed many ladies. I estimate that I communicated to some extent with over one hundred different ladies. It worked. I got return emails and started talking to several on the phone. Then I realized I needed to crystallize my thoughts on exactly what I was looking for in a woman--a woman I meant to be with me forever--so I wrote up a list of qualities and attributes. One of the ladies I was talking to met me for coffee at a local coffee shop. It was very pleasant talking to her. She was very cheerful--smiled a lot and laughed easily. We decided to go to dinner a couple days later. Dinner was enjoyable, and afterwards I drove her to my home and introduced her to my family, some of whom she actually already knew from her work. She was perfect. I met her the next several nights at a friend's home where she was checking on and feeding a cat while they were out of town. We walked and talked. It's my view that a relationship is a caused situation, so I decided to cause a permanent relationship with Mary. I discussed this with her and handled her concerns. She laughed and she cried and then agreed to get married. The only question was when, as I wanted to allow my family time to get over their mom passing away and time to get used to a new woman in dad's life. Our relationship grew stronger and better the more we were together. When Mary had a chance to go visit her family in Kentucky, I decided we should go together and also visit my family in North Carolina. We decided to get married before we left so our relationship would be clear. We got the license, and on Friday night after work, a friend of ours married us in another friend's backyard with another six or so friends in attendance. Although the marriage was rushed due to the trip, we have no regrets as we have been very happy with our decision and our relationship. Seven months have now passed since I met Mary, and we have not had a single cross word or upset between us. (Update 11/27/08, 1/11/09, 4/1/09, 5/4/09, 11/2/09. 6/19/10. This is still a true statement after over 3 years now!) I know we are going to keep the love and warmth we have very high because we both have agreed that's the way it will be.
09/06/12 Edit: Tomorrow will be our fifth year of marriage. I am very happy to have found Mary and to have been able to talk her into marriage. 05/07/15♥ :-) What the Affinity Exchange did for me was to provide rapid access to many single ladies so that I was able to rapidly get into communication. Had I done it the old fashioned way, having been married for 32 years and with all my friends being married, it would have taken a long time and I may never have met and married the perfect one, Mary. My family is fine with the marriage. Life is grand. Mary Andrews is my wife, now, Mary Watts. I like that. And we'll continue to live happily ever after!
I am providing the information because the Affinity Exchange helped me to resolve my personal problem of becoming single due to the passing of my wife. Please read our success story and see if this service can help you. Sincerely and Very Happily Married, Carl Watts I am not paid or compensated in any way to tell you this. 09/07/12 will be our 5th anniversary!
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Mary ANDREWS AND Carl WATTS "...I had kind of lost hope on finding a happy relationship, but I have definitely met the man of my dreams."