Increasing Knowledge can Increase Confidence!
Learn about the vehicle you want to drive. Get someone to help you with the operation of the vehicle. It
is common to do a drivers education which teaches rules, laws, and gives hands-on practice.
Spot the differences and similarities between vehicles and drivers.
How is riding a bicycle different from driving a car? Seems too simple but is it?
Painting is another example. You can get lessons or explore on your own but start simple and work
your way up.
A good coach or teacher will take steps to ensure you understand each step and win at the process of
learning and doing.
Life is full of challenges. Some are difficult, some are easy.
Often the difference is a good nights sleep and some food to help keep the body and emotions under
Sometimes an outside viewpoint can help you spot ways to over come challenges and situations.
I met a lady the other day. Her day had been horrible. She had made a mistake and expected to be
fired. She worked in a support industry for big entertainment.
I asked her what she would do if fired. Her response was to take a few days off and get herself
together. (Translation, lay down and die or feel sorry for herself!)
I gave her an example about me crashing a motorcycle and then immediately getting back onto it. Point
is the crash had put me at effect. Getting back on the motorcycle and driving off was me smashing that
effect and grabbing control. I won!
She could see this. So I got her looking at options! What's the worst that could happen? Could she
prepare for that now? Could she set up alternatives so if she's fired, she could step away and still be at
cause with new sources of income.
She had arrive distraught and upset. She left cheerful and confident that she's survive regardless of the
outcome of tomorrow.
She had her life under a better perspective and she was confident.
I Can do This for YOU!
First, I'd ask you to make a list of problems or things you do not have confidence about.
If that alone doesn't help you, contact me. Let's chat!
Routinely I say #EverythinWill_B_OK! I believe that is true!
Also, “A person is only as valuable as he aids others in their games of survival!” Quoting myself :-)
Feel Free to Communicate with Me!
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What is Confidence and How do You Get it?
Per Google, “confidence is a feeling of self-assurance arising from one's
appreciation of one's own abilities or qualities”.
That's a pretty good definition.
However, it brings up questions.
For example how do you get a feeling of self-assurance? Or to phrase it a
different way, how do you get an appreciation of your own abilities or
Self-assurance Comes from Successfully Doing or
To improve areas or abilities, you need to identify what you wish to gain
confidence in, write down a list!
Here is how I'd handle this: Goal: I want to be more confident talking to others.
Now, what could make that easier? Looking at baby steps or gradients, a first
step could be: I could make a decision to be interested in the other person!
That might be too difficult. How about looking at the other person? That
A next step could be when
Communicating, Be Myself.
Are you getting the idea?
People can naively sense honesty. Sometimes they ignore their sense and
listen to someone's words.
That is how politicians talk people into voting for them. They flow a gush of
promising warm words with no intention or ability to do what they say. Often
their beautiful words mask harmful intentions!
I listen to a speech made by a well known politician. It was remarkable how
well he spoke. He was so charming, smiling, and convincing. The whole time
he spoke, I wanted to believe him.
His words were so effective. But I sensed, and knew factually, that he was
dishonest and only blowing warm soothing HOT air to hid the harm he had
done and was doing!
When I meet some who is not being themselves, I know they are not to be
trusted and therefore my conversations with them is only polite. They will
never be accepted by me nor be my friends as long as they remain dishonest.
To communicate with people, be yourself. You are a good person and worthy
of trust and admiration. Force yourself to smile, it helps. Continue to be
interested in them as I am in you :-)
Communicating: Reality or Agreement
When you looked at the person, as noted above, that you want to
communicate this makes them feel they are important and real to you.
Are they cheerful or not so cheerful? A good question to break the ice is
“How has your day been?”
Whatever they say, acknowledge them. Let them know you heard them. Then
get some more information so you can better understand them.
If they say great, ask them “How so?” If they say horrible, ask them “What
Acknowledge their answer appropriately: “That's awesome!” or “Wow, tell me
more.” You're acceptance of their information increased agreement.
Continue to be interested. Would you continue to communicate with someone
who is not interested in you?
Tip, if the person is buried in their cell phone, they may be too shy to
communicate in person?
Respect them and if they show NO INTEREST, leave them alone.
Gradients to Confidence.
Gradients to confidence involves you succeeding or winning a little bit at a
time. With communication, try someone you know first!
Another example: If you want to learn how to drive, how could you break that
down into baby steps?
Ideas on this would be learning the rules of driving. Yes, actually read and
understand the laws and rules of the road. The police expect you to know