Shining Light on Toxic People 120917
As you may know, I've been driving a lot lately to earn and income. I drive for both Uber
In my driving, I get a chance to talk to a lot of awesome people.
In these conversations, their difficulties in life often come up. In these many discussions, toxic
people seem to be the most common stumbling block in their lives.
In these conversations, I was able to help these people spot the person that was ruining their
lives. Just by spotting who was ruining their lives brought relief and helped them to move towards
Toxic People Have NO Power of Their Own
Have you ever seen someone trip another person? The tripped person's motion does all the
damage as they fall and strike the ground. The tripper just put a foot in the way!
Have you ever seen someone enthusiastic about a project and someone starts explaining how it
will not work? The person is enthusiastic and gets tripped mentally and drops in emotional tone
down to a lower level. If the person destroying the other's idea is vicious enough, the former
enthusiastic person can become apathetic!
Their power comes from your reaction. Cut them off!
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Toxic people thrive on upset, pain, illness and despair.
They like to attack what you like. They make nothing of your opinions. They invent complaints
about you, your work, anything and everything you think is important.
The lame stream media does this all the time to everything they promote as “news.” Often they
outright lie and when caught, they call it a mistake. Bull, they do it all the time intentionally.
What is Stressing You in Life?
That's a very general question. For example I had a lady get in my car who was going to the
doctor. She was ill.
She was having a miserable day. She'd dropped her new cell phone and broke it. She was being
late for a appointment.
I asked her what was stressing her? She responded it was her work. This is too vague and offers
no solution. I inquired further, what at work was stressing? Work deadlines was what it was.
Again, that offered no solution.
I asked her who was pressuring and stressing her? She lite up when she spotted the guy
It wasn't just the pressure, it was how he was doing it!
I don't know what she was going to do about him but as she got out of my car, the said “I feel
She went for feeling sick to a smiling “much better!” just from spotting the source of her stress!
Another example was a girl who is an executive in treasury for a large company. She was being
stressed to they point of illness. Her boss was complaining that she was doing thing wrong but
wasn't telling her what was wrong. It happened several times. She figured this out and ceased
Later in her work review, he explained how he was “challenging her.” Actually what he was doing
One other example and I'll move on, I had a rider who told me he was unable to get to sleep at
night. He explained how he will lay awake until five o'clock in the morning and they has to get up
I asked him who was stressing him. He said it was interesting that I ask that question. I explained
that I know something was worrying him. Any that something is usually a person.
He told me who it was that was stressing him as he got out of my car.
Related article: Who Has the RIGHT to Insult You?
Just the term “Toxic People” communicates with people so very well!
I picked up another man. He was not in good physical condition. He stated he had been to the
medical center where I picked him up for his allergies.
He also explained he was moving out of the city. I suggested he might not give his forwarding
address to the toxic people in his life. He explained he'd gotten ride of a lot.
As he was getting out, I suggested there were more to lose. He asked why I said that. I pointed out
he has allergies and that if he lost the toxic people he might lose the allergies. He seemed to
realize there might be a connection and thanked me for talking with him.
Do You Have Toxic People in Your Life?
Do you know people that create drama and upset routinely?
Do you know people that always rain on people's parades?
Do you know negative people? Addicts? Liars? Criminals?
How about people that make less of you? Or tell you that no one likes you?
How about people that disrespect you, have poor manners, keep you waiting constantly?
Anyone that makes you less happy, less confident, less energetic is a negative person.
Anyone that discourages your ideas, your art, your communication or creativeness is a negative
These type people are TOXIC and will kill you given the chance even is super slowly.
Toxic People Create Stress
A person that constantly tells you what to do is telling you that you are incompetent, that you're
powerless, that you're worthless.
A person that tell you how you're wrong constantly is trying to kill you.
When you ignore them entirely, you cut their power.
Related article: Who Has the RIGHT to Insult You?
Handling Toxic People
Sometimes you must have these people around you. When you must, you have to handle them
so they are not a constant source of upset.
I've had several of these people around in the past.
One person was rude over a long period. It was covert enough that I came down with a cold.
When I spotted this, I handled him. The cold went away. He is no longer rude.
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Another person was out right antagonist. She created trouble in many areas of our family. She
pitted one of her brothers against another by lying to each. She stressed my wife until she was ill.
We cut her off for five years. The family spotted her as a lying trouble maker. They confronted
her with her lies. When we went back for a holiday event, she was nice as can be.
I could go on and on. Some people are not worth the time it takes to handle them. But each is an
Each person in our lives is important. Rarely are they so insane they are truly evil. So value your
friends and family. Don't create upset. Grant them respect.
If they are unpleasant trouble makes, don't turn your back on them. You do not have to hold them
close nor expect them to like you or for you to like them.
Valid Reasons for Upsets
None. It is true a huge disaster can be upsetting but that doesn't help. Positive action does help.
Someone throwing insults might upset you if you let them. That is what they are trying to do. Or
you can rise above the desire to get revenge, to react in anger. You can do what drives the
troublemakers mad, do well in your life. Help others.
There are precepts that directly relate to this article in The Way To Happiness:
Precept #18. RESPECT THE RELIGIOUS BELIEFS OF OTHERS.
Precept #19. TRY NOT TO DO THINGS TO OTHERS THAT YOU WOULD NOT LIKE THEM TO
DO TO YOU
Precept #20. TRY TO TREAT OTHERS AS YOU WOULD WANT THEM TO TREAT YOU
Precept #21. FLOURISH AND PROSPER
I have written other related articles. Here are a few:
Covert Hostility, Example of
Full list of articles.
The Way To Happiness.
I use The Way To Happiness as a moral guide in my day to day life. It is not a religious text. The
people I know that have read it, all agree with its precepts.
You might give it a try. You can watch the videos on my site about them or go to their site. They
are very well done.
If you need gentle assistance, contact me. I am trained in resolving conflicts very successfully.
Helping someone spot what condition(s) and what the solutions are to handle them is exactly
what I do in life.
Improving the conditions of others is my destination and purpose in life. A little true knowledge
can go a long way. I do not ask that you believe anything!
Routinely I say #EverythinWill_B_OK!I believe that is true!
Also, “A person is only as valuable as he aids others in their games of survival!”
Quoting myself :-)
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